Taking the High Road

How we respond to situations speak volumes in regards to our character. That is not always fair, but our response to people and situations can be worked on. I personally, have always had trouble keeping my character in-tact. One bad move towards my way, and I explode. An example would be when I confronted my professor about receiving an F on my project. She was not the friendliest and sure did not like my friendliness because she asked me, “Are you always this bubbly?” I knew instantly our conversations would never go smooth. Anyways, when I asked what I did wrong and emphasized the hard work I put in, she responded, “I have never seen a project so low to part.” I snapped. I angrily responded, “Well I have never met a professor so ignorant!” and stormed out.

Now walking to my car, I KNEW I was dead wrong for what I said, but in my eyes there was no going back. I knew she was going to fail me and I kept my head high constantly telling myself I did not need her or the class, which was true. On the other hand, that conversation took place 2 years ago and today, I still wish I was the bigger person. That particular professor was known for being moody, and very stern in her grading so I was not surprised at her response, I was offended and I should not have been.

I had to learn over time not to take everything personally and although I cannot control how someone may view me or approach me, or my work, I can control my response. Getting angry and allowing my emotions take over was me losing the battle. I lost control of my bubbly persona and went lethal, and in the end I did not feel good about it.

For some people like myself, it is hard to hold anger within when you feel like someone deserves your wrath, but at the same time you're falling for the game. Taking other’s actions or words personal can be draining and it is even more draining feeding into it. By keeping in mind that other’s opinions and the way they respond has nothing to do with you, I am sure it will take a big weight off your shoulders. I also keep in mind that my response is for my well-being and not others and personally responding in an angry or rude manner has not often suited me well. I find more pleasure in taking the high road and keeping my focus on what I can control. Also the best way to prove that professor wrong, would have been passing the class!